We’re adept at identifying and distinguishing between good and bad people. This distinction is crucial for maintaining healthy boundaries between ourselves and others. However, psychologically, these boundaries aren’t always as clear-cut as they seem. The person who intimidates others may also be intimidated by them. The individual who bullies often experiences the most humiliation. And yes, the person who is overly controlling may feel helpless. Of course, understanding someone’s behavior doesn’t mean condoning it, but it does provide a more powerful and less reactive stance to take.